Episode Transcript
[00:00:00] God, I'm broken again. Put me back together.
[00:00:04] Put me back together now. Who said following God was easy? When you're broken, I mean, you're praying, you're reflecting, doing everything right. But it feels like God has put himself on timeout, like he's just going quiet. And you're asking God, where are you? Where are you? Because I know you see me hurting. I know you see me. And it's not just the. The pain, but it's the, the silence that hurts more. It's. You want to be healed, you want to be put back together.
[00:00:35] But right now you're just in pieces. And here you are, you're. You're gluing yourself back together with ACE bandages and emotional duct tape, skimping along, fragile, just hoping that you don't shatter your. Your leg or just shattering pieces on the next step that you take.
[00:00:53] Let's just. Let's just talk about this. Let's talk about this brokenness, the real pain that millennials are facing right now and how God still wants to meet them, and he's going to meet them in that pain, but we just have to realize it and know that he is God because he's willing, he wants to put us back together no matter what. And no matter what you think, no matter what you think, don't isolate yourself. Because there are so many people right now who are just broken. And according to cdc, suicide is the second leading cause of death for people ages 25 to 34. That means too many people are just walking around silently breaking, and some don't even make it through that silence. And that's that silent battle, that silent battle that so many people are dealing with because they don't feel like they have the. The wherewithal to identify and just be in a place where they could just release freely and identify somebody that they can actually share with without being judged. And I know that this generation right now is just struggling to hold it together emotionally, even when they believe in God.
[00:02:10] That's the worst thing.
[00:02:12] Because now you're actually putting yourself in a position when there's. We're going to get into the reasons, but you just, you. You've seen so many miracles and so many people's whose lives have been changed because of God.
[00:02:28] But now all of a sudden you feel like because you're in a place of brokenness, you don't even. You can't sense them, you don't feel them.
[00:02:37] But there's some other things that's going along with your life or in your life right now that's preventing that wedge. And that wedge is just going to separate you and God. And that's what we can't allow to happen.
[00:02:52] And the thing is, you may be full of faith, but you're still fighting this battle. So let's call out five things right now. Let's just call out five things that. That breaks millennials from the inside out.
[00:03:07] Let's get into this. Those five struggles that's breaking us apart. Unprocessed trauma, childhood wounds, betrayals and abandonment. You know, in most of us, we never had a safe place to unpack the hurts that we actually experience. And so what do we do? We suppress them. We suppress them. We spiritualize it or ignore it.
[00:03:33] But that very pain doesn't heal. What does it end up doing? It rots. It's just. It's no different than putting trash outside. It's going to stink.
[00:03:44] And that's going to make us think also, because when it's buried and not getting dealt with and we're not digging it up, we're not. We're not getting to the root cause of it, man. It's going to come out somewhere. And you just imagine having some type of outburst because all of a sudden you've been triggered because of something that you've experienced in the past that never got dealt with, you never resolved it. And it's going to come up some. It's going to come up in some form of fashion.
[00:04:12] Another thing, comparison that, that identity and that confusion just from. Just from social media and TV or people that you might engage with and see who are just striving. They're all of a sudden, everything is going well in their lives. Everything is going right. Every decision they make is. Is that is prospering and their relationships are thriving. And you might be in that season right now where might be struggling a little bit with, you know, with your relationships or your career. You might be doing what you want to do.
[00:04:47] And so that comparison, I mean, comparing our worst days to somebody else's highlight reels isn't realistic. Even when, you know, we think, oh, I should be further now. And that. That pressure that just breaks us silently. And so that's why it's so good just to reflect on scriptures. Galatians 6, 4 just reminds us, don't compare ourselves with others.
[00:05:12] Just look at your own work to see if. If what you have done is. Is anything to be proud of.
[00:05:19] Number three, that loneliness, that loneliness in the crowd. I mean, you could have 5,000 followers on any type of social. And it's just rising. Or you could be Ms. Mr. Popular or Mrs. Popular in high school or whatever it was, and you're still living in the past. But just because you have that does not mean you're. You have fulfillment on the inside. It doesn't mean that you're content.
[00:05:47] I just, I just never forget when, when, when Deion Sanders, back in the day, he was playing with the San Francisco 49ers and winning the Super Bowl. And even at the height of this moment, right, he don't want a Super bowl, you still feel empty. And he talked about that openly because he was missing that relationship with God. He was missing it. And so when we crave that connection, but we don't feel safe enough to be real, that's bad.
[00:06:16] Number four, just feeling forgotten by God. You know, when your prayers seem unanswered, when the healing doesn't come fast enough, it just seems like God is ignoring the pain. And you question, do I still matter to him? But you just reflect on the Psalms again. You know that David, how long, Lord, will you forget me forever? How long will you hide your face from me?
[00:06:43] These things are, that's why I love the Bible. I love scripture, because there's nothing that you can't find that doesn't identify what people are going through today.
[00:06:55] It just happened many years ago.
[00:06:58] But the same thing is, I mean, so much of it is relatable, and it resonates with where we are and who we are today.
[00:07:06] Good thing is perfectionism and just that religious pressure, right? You've, you've been taught to keep it all together. And so you're trying to be that perfect Christian, that perfect follower. Meanwhile, you're falling apart. And all this stuff just leads to anxiety, this, this hidden anxiety at that. And now you just have this quiet shame. And it's no different than, you know, my career where, you know, just in law enforcement, where you go from call to call and you have some pretty bad calls, but we have to suck it up and go to the next one.
[00:07:39] We have to suck it up. Meanwhile, we're stressed out.
[00:07:44] We have these images that have been implanted that is hard to shake.
[00:07:51] That's just the reality of it. That's the nature.
[00:07:55] But it just doesn't happen in law enforcement. Happens in many instances in our lives and our experiences in our relationships. Like I said earlier, it's just the childhood traumas, the broken relationships, maybe the domestic violence, maybe it's the, the, the, the, the sexual abuse. I mean, any type of abuse, whether it's physical or Mental, right. All these things cause somebody to be broken. And so let's get into some of the things that actually causes the brokenness.
[00:08:31] Because the truth is, most of us are not just broken because of one moment. We're broken because of accumulated lies and things that have happened to us. The repeated wounds, the unhealed traumas that we've carried for years.
[00:08:44] And so what do we do with these things? We end up eternalizing these lies. Somewhere along the way, we started believing that these lies that were never from God are true. I'm not enough.
[00:09:02] No one would ever really love the real me. I have to prove my worth.
[00:09:07] These lies are nothing but just false words that we've allowed to manifest in our own minds. And we begin to believe it. And these lies come from outside people. They come from. They come from parents, they come from friends, they come from bad relationships. They might come from co workers or even a church. But it's that inner voice, right, that you hear over and over again. That voice starts to shape how you see yourself, God and your future. But one of the things I want you to know is that these are, these are critics. These are the voices of critics. And so if it's. If it didn't come from God, don't believe it, don't believe it.
[00:09:51] Nothing but an outside critic who wants to infiltrate your mind and make you feel bad just because they feel bad. And that's the worst thing, right? When you have somebody projecting their, their own feelings, their ideologies, their lies on you because they're afraid. They just want you to be afraid with them.
[00:10:09] But here's, here's the scripture. Truth. Here is the truth.
[00:10:13] You will know the truth and the truth will set you free.
[00:10:18] That means reflect on the truth and really just think about. What is it thinking if it's Jeremiah? For I know the plans that I have for you. Plans to prosper, not to harm you, right?
[00:10:33] That is God's. Those are God's words for you.
[00:10:38] Believe them.
[00:10:40] Make them your affirmation.
[00:10:42] Your daily, your morning, afternoon, evening affirmation. Create a routine from it.
[00:10:50] But before that truth can set you free, you're going to have to expose those lies. That emotional suppression is another thing that keeps us broken when we're taught to be strong. Especially those men, right? Especially as men don't share no type of emotion. Don't cry. You can't cry. Men don't cry. Get over it. Suck it up.
[00:11:12] It's not realistic.
[00:11:15] Emotions that have never been expressed, you know what they do? They become that pain that festers. And that's why you have so many. So many of us just become angry, become anxious, depressed, and we don't even know why.
[00:11:33] But if we take the time to figure out, we'll discover it. But it's that broken, that brokenness that shows up in silence, that short temperedness that, that isolation.
[00:11:45] And all of a sudden we're pretending to be okay. We're not.
[00:11:50] David didn't hide his emotions. He cried out in the Psalms, he said, why my soul, are you downcast? Why is so disturbed within me?
[00:12:02] David had no problem. Here you have the man after God's own heart. If he could feel like that, so can we, so can we. So don't. So don't think you're the only one going through things. Here's another one. That, that mental exhaustion, that, that spiritual disappointment. Here you are, you're praying, you're fasting, you're. You feel like you're doing everything right, but nothing seems to be working. And so you just start wondering, God, are you punishing me? Did I, did I miss something? Did I miss your voice?
[00:12:33] Was, was I supposed to get like this spiritual download when I read the book of Psalm or read Matthew, John or Genesis, what's going on, Lord? But it's that, that enemy, that, that just loves to whisper. God doesn't care.
[00:12:48] He's not real. He's abandoning you. And here's the thing. God isn't absent. He's strategic. And he might have you in this season for a reason. He's not ignoring you. He's refining you. That's why I love Job. That's why I love Job. When Job said, though he slaved me, I would still have hope in him.
[00:13:10] It's like even, even in that silence, God is still moving. And when you think about Job, I mean, Job lost everything.
[00:13:18] Everything.
[00:13:21] And he was still expressing his loyalty and love to God while being broken.
[00:13:30] Brokenness isn't. I know that the thing that really gets us is that when we're broke, man, we, we, we just want that, that quick fix. We don't, we don't want to feel it, we don't want to go through it. We want that fixed right now.
[00:13:45] But there's so much that we end up learning about ourselves, right when we just dictate the time express, get into the God's word, and we end up finding out how resilient we really are.
[00:14:00] And here we are, we're like, God, please put me back together.
[00:14:06] Put me back together if you want to be put back together. Here we go one. You have to acknowledge your brokenness. You can't heal what you don't admit. God isn't, you know, he's not looking for perfection. He's just looking for honesty. He is looking for straight honesty. You could cry, cry out, you could scream, you could write, you could journal, you could pray these messy prayers.
[00:14:29] All God is looking for is your honesty and your realness. God would rather have you just, just, just, just be real and raw and true instead of this fake faith.
[00:14:43] You know, don't have that fake faith. Just be true and honest with them. I mean, if you, if you, if you're mad, you're mad. And express that to him. This Lord. I'm frustrated. I'm upset. I don't know why you got me going through this. Take this away, please.
[00:14:58] But if it's your will, what do you want me to learn from this? Look, the Lord is near the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.
[00:15:09] Yes. Another thing we have to do. Exchange. Exchange those lies for God's truth. That true healing comes when you replace the soundtrack in your mind. You know that lie that you, that you will never heal. But we know that the truth is, by his wounds I am healed.
[00:15:29] God has forgotten me. The truth is I will never leave you nor forsake you. Now you have to create that truth list. You have to. I mean, every time those negative thoughts hit, you speak the opposite from God's word.
[00:15:46] That right there, that is dope. That is dope. Take the journey. Take the journey one piece at a time.
[00:15:54] Take it one step at a time.
[00:15:57] I mean, it's, it's.
[00:16:00] I mean, it takes time to heal. It's, it's not, it's not microwavable. I mean, you just. Not microwaveable. But, I mean, you just can't have that microwave effect, right? I mean, just that instant type of gratification. It, it's, it's a process. It's, it's a slow rebuild because you have to remember you might be going through something. And if somebody, if you're not emotionally stable, you're not building up that emotional resilience to actually fight and build this, this, this exterior where when you are triggered, you just don't respond impulsively or react in a negative way that could.
[00:16:39] I mean, the consequences can be devastating because you never know how that, that trigger moment will come. Just think about, like, just Nehemiah when he was building the wall. He was building that wall brick by brick. In Philippians, Philippians says, you know, he who began A good work in, you will complete it. So don't rush it. Every day you choose, hope you're healing number four, you know, use a seven wise technique. I love this because this, this right here, this helped me big time. And this is what I share with a lot of people I end up talking with who are, who are going through some type of healing, some type of process where we just need to go a little bit deeper, right? Because it's that technique that makes you search, and we're not just focusing on the surface level stuff. In order to heal, you got to go deep. You got to go to where that wound is. And, man, it's a place that many of us don't want to go. But I guarantee once you actually get to that place, it's like, man, this is like a revelation. It's like you're free.
[00:17:37] And now you feel like a burden has been lifted. You feel like you could just talk about whatever it is that you actually went through that pain with anybody, because now you've accepted it. You've accepted it. And so when you, you. You ask those, those questions like, why do I feel this way? And then ask yourself again, you know, six more times, you go from angry to abandoned to. Now you get into the root. I never felt chosen my whole life.
[00:18:09] Oh, now we know what it is.
[00:18:14] And so some people might experience, I'm not sure whatever the brokenness that you might have experienced, but I know at one point mine was like, self worth. Self worth. And it had to do with just being divorced and, you know, just feeling like, how can God use me? And will he be able to use me?
[00:18:36] And when you listen to somebody else and you have these outside noises, of course you would think God could never use you. But God uses your past for the benefit of others.
[00:18:50] But you have to accept it.
[00:18:53] Just know that God doesn't heal this. This. This surface pain, the surface type of pain. He heals the root.
[00:19:03] Jeremiah, heal me, Lord. I will be healed. Save me, and I will be saved. So here we are.
[00:19:11] You're still here for a reason. You may feel like you, like you you held together by threads, but God can take those broken pieces and make something beautiful. You're not disqualified. You're not forgotten. You're not broken. You're not broken enough not to be used by God. So if you're still breathing, there's still purpose. God didn't bring you this far to abandon you in the dark. Nope.
[00:19:37] And if all you can whisper is, God, put me back together, that's enough. For him to start rebuilding you. Yes.
[00:19:45] Yes. Why not? You get your rebuild on break by brick.
[00:19:53] Yeah. Now, if this actually resonated with you, please comment. Put me back together. Put me back together. God, I see you. I'm praying for you. And I love you.
[00:20:06] And I want to invite you to check out my free 7 day faith challenge and fearfully unmasking both free PDF downloads. You can print these out, take notes, do whatever you need to do, but it's designed to walk with you step by step, so you don't have to do it alone.
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[00:20:30] We're not done. We're just in rebuilding phase. Why not you? Why not you? D. Wells? I'm out. Bless you. I love.
